The sadness thing that happened to me.

I never expect that I will be writing this down in my blog, but this blog is to write about my happiness and sadness and I decided to write it down.

4 June 2009

It was a fine day as usual I went to work with my wife. My dad then told me that he will be going for a meeting on the site construction for the new Victoria Wholesale centre which will be locate at Kallang Ave. At about 6.30 pm, my dad left the office with his last few words, Wa Ke Liao. He then hop on my neighbour car and left. That was the last time that I saw him.

At about 10.45 pm, I was in the room playing with my children and I heard a loud scream, (Chaoling lai, papa bue sai liao). I was shock and ran down to check what had happen. i saw my mum in the study room hugging onto my dad and kept shouting his name. I then saw that my dad was motionless and his face had tuned purple. I immediately bring my dad down the chair and applied CPR on him. I was pumping his heart and shouting his name to come back. As I do not know when he had collapse, I kept thinking to myself that there is still hope to bring him back to life. I kept pumping his heart and my brother came down. I told him to call the ambulance immediately which he did. The ambulance came about 10 mins later, I think (I was not keeping track of the time) - where got the thought of keeping track of time.

When the ambulance came, I was still applying CPR on my dad and they brought in the equipment. They shock my dad twice and injected something to my dad to help to bring back my dad. Then the decision was made to send my dad to hospital, the ambulance drove like F1 (if he don't drive like that, I will complain and complain all the away) to Changi general Hospital, where he was send into the A&E department. All of us were outside waiting for Guan Ying Ma, Tua Pei Kong to help to bring back my dad. I called my wife at home who is taking care of the house and also the children, to pray to Guan Ying Ma that to bring back my dad. We then waited at the lobby. My uncle then came and asked what happen and I explained to them. Most of the people will ask, he got any illness a not for did he complained of any pain a not. i told them that he did not complain of any thing.

After one hour, the doctor came out and asked us to the go into a room. From my previous job, going into that bloody room, means my dad have gone. I nearly collapsed but I had to take care of my mum who was in shock. the doctor explained that they had did their best by shocking him and also injecting medicine into him to bring him back but he did not return for the past one hour and decided that there was no other way but to pronounced him dead. After hearing that my mum and my brothers nearly collapsed. My uncle and cousins kept asking about his brain was it dead and was there a chance to bring him back. The doctor explained that if there is a chance to bring my dad back, due to the lack of oxygen to the brain, he may be in coma. (In coma is better then he is dead, right a not). We then were brought to another room which my dad was resting in and for us to see him. during the journey to the room, the nurse kept explaining to us that this case will be stated as a coroners case which my dad will be send to Singapore General Hospital for any autopsy to find out the cause of death. Who in the hell will want his or her passed away family member to be cut out. But to find out the cause of his death and the hospital policy, we did not cause who ha to the hospital.

In the room, my mum walked in and kept saying to the dad, why he did not leave any instruction to her before he leave this world, how is she gong to handle all his things and business. (My dad is a person who will do things his way and do not want people to interfere). At the point of time, I found out that all the load had landed onto my mum. I tried to console my mum but there was no use, she was in the state and nothing can go into her ears. This kind of feeling is something that only the person is going through then he or she will have. I then arranged for all the admission documents and also the investigation officer who will be handling my dad case. After all these were done, I asked my mum that there was no use staying here, there were more important to do now, that was to prepare my dad funeral.

We all left the hospital with sadness. In the car my mum kept saying that she is alright. When we reached back home, my uncle were there and a meeting was held. The decision to make was that to take what kind of ritual to perform for my dad. As we were in a total loss, my mum said, ask my dad, then all three brothers went into the study room and asked my dad using the tradition way by Da Pei to him. He then chose to preform Buddhism. then we told my uncle who knew how to deal with all this and this was set. The funeral will be held for five days at home.

5 June 2009

After the meeting it was about 5.30 am. I told my mum that we need to settle the customers orders in the morning and close early. All the arrangement and duties were arrange. At about 6.00 am, I drove the company van to the shop and unloaded all the goods back in he office and my cousin had arranged his driver to come to assist to deliver. it was about 7.00 am, i then drove to Blk 9 of Singapore General Hospital to view my dad and wait for the report. The undertaker was arranged by my uncle and she met me there. When I was there, i met up with my friends who were investigation officers handling other cases. they were surprise to see me that and asked what was reason of been there, i then told them that my dad passed away. As an investigator, they will ask, got medical history? no was my reply. they then told me that an autopsy will be conducted and i told them i know, this is not the first time that i have been there. the result came and an autopsy will be conducted. Look on the bright side, at less i will know how my dad pass away. I then told the undertaker that i need to go back to settle somethings and for him to call me when he is coming to collect my dad. My wife then call me and told me that they have made the arrangement and settle the orders in the office and will be proceeding back home.

When I reached home, all the family members were busy setting up the things needed for the funeral, later the tent were setup. at about 11.45 am, the undertaker called me and it was time to collect my dad. I then drove back to Singapore General Hospital and the admin girl gave me the death cert. The cause of death is (1(a) ACUTE CORONARY THROMBOSIS, DUE TO (b) CORONARY ATHEROSCLEROSIS). After identified my dad, the undertaker took my dad back to their company to clean him up and then they will send him back home. I then went back home to assist in the preparation of the funeral.

After three hours, my dad was back home and a ritual was preform and we dressed him up in his best suit and let him to rest.

I am currently in the funeral writing down all these.